A stitch in time saves nine.
We all know the timeless importance of these words. By taking action to stop a problem early, we can save ourselves almost limitless amounts of time, effort, hassle, strain, money and pain. Not procrastinating on fixing your problems is one of the most characteristic habits of successful, effective people. However, knowing and doing are two different things, and all too often we allow problems to get out of hand where early intervention could have headed it off. Unfortunately, it’s often the most important aspects of life where we are most remiss. Many of us will take our car for a monthly checkup, but go for years on end without seeing a doctor. Even worse, the aspect of our life that we are most likely to neglect is the one that has the greatest impact on our long-term happiness: relationships. A relationship checkup at the right time can buy you decades of happiness, but most people likely have never even heard of them.
The importance of a relationship checkup
Every relationship has stumbling blocks and problems, but only in some relationships do these develop and snowball into major issues. It’s not usually possible to predict if this will happen in advance. Minor betrayals of confidence can add up before you know it to a complete breakdown of trust. Small acts of turning away can lead imperceptibly to a situation where you barely communicate except to argue. A decline in intimacy and acts of affection can continue getting worse unchecked, until one partner succumbs to infidelity.
When a relationship is basically sound, it is relatively easy to take steps to prevent minor problems from spiraling out of control. After the relationship has broken down, it takes enormous resources of patience, effort, and courage to put things together again. Sometimes even that is not enough: not everything broken can be put back together; it is not always possible to forgive. It’s all too easy for two good, well-meaning people to find themselves in a situation where they can’t live together anymore. A regular relationship checkup can prevent you falling into this trap by making minor course-corrections that set you on the long-term path to relationship happiness.
Relationship checkups in Brooklyn
To get a relationship checkup in Brooklyn, reach out to couples therapist, Dr. William Ryan. You can call or fill out the contact form.