1. What is important in choosing a therapist?
Nearly all training programs prepare professionals to treat individuals for depression and anxiety. Individual therapy for anxiety and depression is rarely a “specialty.” Couples/marriage therapy, however, is a definite specialty. If seeking couples therapy, ask if they specialize in it. Ask about their training, if it’s not listed on their website.
2. Does Dr. Ryan specialize in couples/marriage therapy?
Yes. Dr. Ryan’s trains prospective and seasoned mental health professionals in couples/marriage therapy at Brooklyn College and elsewhere. He has over 30 years experience treating couples, and has studied with family therapy pioneers including Salvador Minuchin, Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and Stan Tatkin.
3. Why does Dr. Ryan prefer longer sessions?
Typical short sessions offered by others don’t allow time for either partner to fully express their concerns. Repeated short sessions often leave couples feeling demoralized and hopeless. This is needless! The longer session allows Dr. Ryan to develop and execute a strategy involving numerous tactics, to achieve significant connection in the very first session. Consequently, Dr. Ryan prefers to begin with a 3-hour intensive. Subsequent sessions tend to be 2 hours until the couple is stable.
4. A 3-hour session is so expensive! At $300/hour it’s $900.00!
Many people only need to see Dr. Ryan once a month or so. They think of the 2 or 3-hour session in terms of their monthly budget for their relationship enhancement. Dr. Ryan also has a referral roster for those on a limited budget.
5. How can I find a 3-hour block with my partner to get started?
Dr. Ryan understands the limits life imposes on families, including childcare. Consequently, he is available for sessions on Saturday and Sunday. He is even available evenings, though evenings tend to be booked first and thus have a waiting list.
6. Does Dr. Ryan offer any structured program for couples?
Yes, particularly for pre-marital counseling where couples might be reluctant to complain about each other. Dr. Ryan offers a series of exercises designed to assess and enhance emotional closeness and connection. If desired, this can include increasing the couple’s potential for sexual fun and disinhibition, as well as a discussion of each partner’s sexual needs, desires, preferences, etc.
7. How is Dr. Ryan different from other couples therapists?
Dr. Ryan is guided by the complaints offered, needs unmet, and tailors sessions to each person’s goals. Dr. Ryan’s extensive training and experience allows him to read couples rapidly and begin intervening almost immediately. He is known for his exquisite sensitivity, non-judgmental stance, & attentiveness to your shifting emotions. Dr. Ryan helps you and your partner drop defenses. He then delicately entices partners to give and receive the reassurance, nurturing, and soothing we desire in intimate relationships. Thus, most couples begin progress toward new, deep enjoyment and relationship satisfaction in the very first session.